1. Acknowledging your success encourages you to pay attention to yourself.
People struggle with giving themselves credit for what they do. We think it’s no big deal or it doesn’t matter or nobody cares. We say what we do has to get done, as if that makes it any less impressive. Or worst of all, we simply don’t pay attention to the amazing things we do.
It’s hard to feel good about yourself if you don’t feel good about what you do.
It’s even harder to feel good about life if you don’t feel good about yourself.
On your next birthday, don’t simply celebrate the moment you arrived in this world, an event entirely beyond your control. Use it as an opportunity to celebrate what you do. If only for 1 day out of 365, give yourself the credit you deserve. If you want, overindulge and celebrate your half birthday too. You’re going to do this, and by planting the seed, you will have walked right into…
2. This is your motivation to accomplish whatever it is you’ve been avoiding.
Now that you know you are going to celebrate your accomplishments on your birthday, this is the inspiration you need to do something worth celebrating. Having a hard time starting? Remember your birthday. Second thoughts? Think of your birthday. Want to quit? Birthday! Having a deadline is a powerful motivator.
It is also helpful to share your plans with others. Another powerful motivator is friends who keep you honest.
DISCLAIMER: When faced with the question of accomplishments, the tendency is to think big. New job. Got Married. Ran a marathon. Big things can be tiny. Cleaned your desk. Reconnected with an old friend. Drank less soda. The small things are equally important, they just force us to look that much harder to find them. They're like 4-leaf clovers.
Don’t worry if “cleaned my desk” doesn’t sound as impressive as “ran a marathon.” This is for you, not anyone else. It’s an accomplishment, not a contest.
I’ll be entirely honest. As I get older, birthdays mean less. Been there, done that, drank a beer. This is the first year in a long time I’m excited for my birthday.
I can’t wait to see what I’ve accomplished.
Part of my goal is to demystify the field of mental health. I welcome comments or questions.
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