mental health and AI, #3

"Use it or lose it." 

That's what they say about your physical health. 

The same is true for your cognitive functioning.

This is one of the most devious and destructive elements of AI.

Today, my job took me to 6 new locations in parts of town I'm not familiar with.

I could have asked AI to map the most efficient route.

I chose to do it myself.

I value my ability to chart my own course exponentially more than I value AI's ability to save 3 minutes of time.

Thinking for myself is not a skill I want to lose because I'm not using it.

The more you ask of AI, the less you expect of yourself.

Next time you ask AI to complete some mundane or ordinary task, ask yourself one question. 

"Is this a piece of myself I am willing to lose?"

for information on individual therapy, contact me at bradleyjabel@gmail.com

mental health and AI #2

AI is taking hold in our society because we don't appreciate ourselves and our own abilities.

You ask AI to write an email for you.

You are asking a computer program to do something that you've done hundreds of times. 

But you aren't just writing an email.

You are organizing your thoughts.

You are articulating your needs in a way that is unique to you.

You have the confidence to hit send, thereby sharing your thoughts with others.

Have you stopped to think about how amazing those simple, routine tasks really are?

Or are you just writing an email?

When you ask AI to perform a mundane task (to do lists, emails, meeting agendas), you are devaluing your own ability to organize and express your thoughts in a way that no other species on the planet can.

You are losing piece of what makes you human.

We have to appreciate who we are and what we do, even if what we are doing seems routine and boring. 

Years ago, I compiled a list of 5 critical traits for good emotional health.

In my humble opinion, appreciation is the most important.

And we need it now more than ever before. 

for information on individual therapy, contact me at bradleyjabel@gmail.com

mental health and AI #1

AI is taking hold in our society because we don't appreciate each other. 

You see a piece of art, or hear a song. What is your first thought? 

Either "I like this" or "it sucks."

We rarely think of the artist behind the art,

years of honing their craft,

learning and combining different techniques,

looking at our old word in a new way,

having the courage to publicly express themselves, thereby giving us a chance to tell them how much they suck. 

I'm not suggesting we have to like or love artistic creation.

It's ok to have a preference,

but we have to learn how to appreciate something, or someone, even if we don't like it. 

When we lose our ability to appreciate each other, we settle for AI slop created by someone with no more artistic talent than the ability to type "create a painting of flowers in the style of _________."

Looking at something and passing judgement is easy.

Appreciation takes the time and willingness to dig deeper and go beyond our likes and dislikes.

Years ago, I compiled a list of 5 critical traits for good emotional health.

In my humble opinion, appreciation is the most important.

And we need it now more than ever before. 

for information on individual therapy, contact me at bradleyjabel@gmail.com

 

Rethinking men's issues #19

Men, we cling to two conflicting beliefs.

1. Change sucks.

2. We have to change.

Change sucks! LET'S GOOOOO!!!

 

That is textbook setting yourself up for failure. Of course you aren't finishing the thing that sucks.

Luckily, you don't have to change anything about you. Here's the proof.

Think of something you wish you could change about you.

This should be a quality, like more patient (less angry). 

Open to new ideas (less stuck in your ways).

Assertive (speaking up for yourself).

Willing and able to say no (putting your needs first).

Do you have the thing you want to change about you?

Now think of a time when you were that thing. 

Even if you have to go back to second grade

and it only happened once.

If you look hard enough, you will realize that you already are everything you want to be.

You don't have to change anything. 

Find your best qualities,

and be those things more often.

You already are everything you want to be.

for information on individual therapy, contact me at bradleyjabel@gmail.com

rethinking men's issues #18

Fifteen years ago, Mark started at the bottom of the company. 

His boss kept giving him bigger and harder jobs.

He'd tell the boss he has never done that and doesn't know what he's doing.

The boss would say, "You can do it. I believe in you." 

Today Mark is still with the company, and the only person higher on the ladder is the boss who pushed him to do more.  

He told me there's nothing he can't do, because 15 years ago, one person believed in him.

And now he believes in himself.

I told Mark he should be a therapist because he gets it. 

Men, strip away all the jargon, the acronyms, the theories and systems, and therapy is about one person listening to you

and believing in you

and encouraging you to be a better version of yourself.

Because when someone else believes in you, 

you eventually start to believe in yourself.

All of mental health is built on a foundation of confidence.

Without it, everything else falls apart. 

Men, you say you don't want therapy or a therapist.

Fine. But ask yourself one question.

Do you want one person in your life who listens to you

and believes in you

and encourages you to be a better version of yourself? 

for information on individual therapy, contact me at bradleyjabel@gmail.com  

rethinking men's issues #17

Men, every athlete who has ever been injured, which is every athlete, will tell you the emotional recovery is more difficult than the physical recovery. 

Your body is ready to get back in the game.

The knee heals.

The ankle heals.

The shoulder heals. 

But the brain remembers.

How long before that voice in your head stops asking am I really ready?

Can I perform as well as before?

When will I reinjure myself?

How long before you can run and jump and move 

without worrying about every step and twist and landing?

Healing emotionally takes time.

You know this. 

Your ego won't let you admit it. 

As long as you are fighting with yourself, you will never fully heal. 

When you have been hurt, give your mind the same chance to recover that you give your body. 

for information on individual therapy, contact me at bradleyjabel@gmail.com

rethinking men's issues #16

Men, your garage full of tools doesn't magically fix anything without you.

You have to use the tools. You have to do the work.

Your fancy grill/smoker with all the equipment doesn't make dinner by itself.

You have to use the tools. You have to do the work.

The exercise equipment collecting dust in your basement? 

You know.

Therapy works the exact same way.

You have to use the tools. You have to do the work. 

 

People ask me all the time if therapy works.

I tell them it only works if they do.

I can teach you the 4 coping skills (yes, there are only 4), anger management skills and communication skills, but it only means something if you are willing to put it all into action.

Same as your smoker, table saw or kettle bell.  

Men, when you are ready to see a therapist, be ready to do the work.

For information on individual therapy, contact me at bradleyjabel@gmail.com