rethinking men's issues #17

Men, every athlete who has ever been injured, which is every athlete, will tell you the emotional recovery is more difficult than the physical recovery. 

Your body is ready to get back in the game.

The knee heals.

The ankle heals.

The shoulder heals. 

But the brain remembers.

How long before that voice in your head stops asking am I really ready?

Can I perform as well as before?

When will I reinjure myself?

How long before you can run and jump and move 

without worrying about every step and twist and landing?

Healing emotionally takes time.

You know this. 

Your ego won't let you admit it. 

As long as you are fighting with yourself, you will never fully heal. 

When you have been hurt, give your mind the same chance to recover that you give your body. 

for information on individual therapy, contact me at bradleyjabel@gmail.com

rethinking men's issues #16

Men, your garage full of tools doesn't magically fix anything without you.

You have to use the tools. You have to do the work.

Your fancy grill/smoker with all the equipment doesn't make dinner by itself.

You have to use the tools. You have to do the work.

The exercise equipment collecting dust in your basement? 

You know.

Therapy works the exact same way.

You have to use the tools. You have to do the work. 

 

People ask me all the time if therapy works.

I tell them it only works if they do.

I can teach you the 4 coping skills (yes, there are only 4), anger management skills and communication skills, but it only means something if you are willing to put it all into action.

Same as your smoker, table saw or kettle bell.  

Men, when you are ready to see a therapist, be ready to do the work.

For information on individual therapy, contact me at bradleyjabel@gmail.com

rethinking men's issues #15

How can I be calm when I need to be calm?

This problem is as common as it is misunderstood. 

 

Men, here's the big secret about getting and staying calm.

Being calm is a skill.

Like every other skill you possess, the more you do it, the better you get.

Being calm is the same as sinking a putt.

Or a free throw.

Or making a cold call from your office.

Or speaking to a crowd of 500. 

If you want to get better at something, you practice. 

And practice. 

And practice some more. 

Constantly refining your technique.

I encourage all of my clients to explore yoga, mindfulness or meditation, whatever feels right for them.

Each philosophy is about helping you build bodily and mental self awareness, two elements fundamental to getting and staying calm. 

Pick an approach and practice being calm. 

Being calm is a skill.

The more you do it, the better you get. 

for information on individual therapy, contact me at bradleyjabel@gmail.com