Rethink Not Caring

I don't give a damn.

I don't give a shit.

I don't give a f$%k.

I don't give a rat's ass.

English is a colorful language. We have so many ways not to care about something. Not caring has immeasurable therapeutic value. If you say you don't care about the stuff that causes you stress, you have to do one more thing.

You have to mean it. 

You have to really stop giving a shit about the people and situations that give you grief.

You can say you don't care about something, but if you spend the next day, week or month complaining about it, you still care. Complaining = Caring. You act one way but feel the opposite. 

This is right in line with a fundamental therapeutic concept: your inside has to match your outside.

If you put on the mask and act all happy happy, but the inside is dark and brooding, you will struggle. When the inside and outside don't line up, you suffer. You can't ignore your inside forever. It always comes out, usually at the worst times and in the worst ways.

Go ahead and truly stop caring. 

Stop giving a shit, damn or f&%k about the things that bother you.

Stop caring on the inside and the outside. 

And really mean it. 

  

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