The truth is people don't like change. It's scary and uncomfortable. Change relies on the idea that something about you is wrong. You are focused on your weaknesses. It's no surprise that most people fall back into the comfort of their fear, their sadness, their anxiety.
Change is an unrealistic and unnecessary goal. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO CHANGE!
Instead of changing, try this.
1. Think of the ideal you, everything you want to be:
assertive...
compassionate...
creative...
motivated...
confident...
sensitive...
caring...
appreciative...
calm...
genuine...
honest.
2. Now think of a time in your life when you were that quality.
Go back as far as you need to. There is no statue of limitations on the real you. Maybe your last memory of confidence occurred when you were 15.
If for only one moment in your life, you were powerful, creative, honest, assertive.
Stop focusing on your weaknesses. Focus on your strengths.
If for only one moment in your life, you were powerful, creative, honest, assertive.
Stop focusing on your weaknesses. Focus on your strengths.
If I was ________ once, I can be ________ again. I will be ________ more often.
But don't change.
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