Dear parents, many of you believe tough love is necessary to teach your children that life isn't easy.
Guess what? Your children don't need you to teach them that. Life is well equipped to do that without your help.
Do you know when kids first learn that life is full of hard falls and sharp corners? The very first day they try to take their very first steps.
They will then learn that some people can't be trusted and others will be openly hostile towards them for no good reason and no fault of their own.
Your children don't need tough love. They need love.
They need you to teach them they are loved, heard and appreciated. Life isn't good at doing that. They need to know you will be there to comfort them and accept them without judgement. Without judgement. Without judgement. I'm naive enough to think I can speak that into existence.
You need to love your children without judgement.
Even if they do things you don't agree with.
Or make choices you wouldn't make now or when you were their age.
Stop yelling at your children in the name of life lessons. The only things you are teaching them is that you are angry and they screwed up. Your kids are smart. They know both of these things.
Love should be obvious, not something shrouded in anger and left for them to discover years later with their therapist.
Love your children openly and overtly.
And without judgement.
For information on individual therapy, contact me at bradleyjabel@gmail.com
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