There are no good days!!!

There is no such thing as a good day.

That’s a happy thought. Makes you feel all warm inside.

On the bright side, there are no bad days either.  

This all-or-nothing mentality is one of the most common faulty thoughts we use to convince ourselves everything sucks. In reality, our days are filled with highs and lows. You don’t even need a therapist to tell you that. That’s life.

We need to remind ourselves of this when we start to think every single incident that occurs in a 24 hour period and every person we come into contact with exists for the sole purpose of making our lives absolutely 100% miserable.

You know those days that seem to fall apart before you even leave the house? Does the day get worse because it really gets worse? Or does it get worse because you’re already in a horrible mood, so you mope around looking for more reasons to be pissed off while closing your eyes from the sunlight?

There are scant few truths in life. One of them is “you find what you are looking for.”

If your day starts off miserable, change what you are looking for! If you can use your powers for the negative, laser focusing on every injustice thrown your way, you can do the same for the positives, searching for the rays of sunlight.

The next time it feels like the sky is going to collapse on you (it probably won’t), take a deep breath and remind yourself of the good things that happened throughout the day. You’ll be in a better mood when you get home, which means your spouse & kids will be happier to be around you...which means you’ll be happier. Circle of happiness.    

One final thought: don’t sit there passively waiting for the sunlight to shine on you. Go look for it. And if it’s not a sunny day, you can still dance in the rain.  

Do you have questions about a specific situation in your life? Topics you want addressed in future essays? Let me know about it in the comment section.

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