most people want to be nice. do the right thing. be a good person.
unfortunately, humans take things to the extreme. these are the people pleasers. they have to be nice all the time, even if it means being less than nice to themselves. they suffer to make others happy. luckily, two simple words can fix this.
be a nice person WITH BOUNDARIES.
nice people can set boundaries.
nice people can put themselves first.
nice people can be selfish.
nice people can be selfish.
nice people can be selfish.
nice people can say no. if anyone has a problem with your polite refusal, that's their problem. nice people will accept your no and selfish people won't.
saying no doesn't make you a jerk or a mean person. it makes you a nice person with reasonable limits.
saying no is self care.
be a nice person, but remember that being nice also includes being nice to yourself.
people pleasers are people, too.
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