You can tell yourself you're going to forget something. The truth is, if it is significant enough to cause that much stress, you can't forget and you won't forget. Honestly, it's to your benefit NOT to forget.
You might think you have forgotten something. A week later...a month later...a year later...it's going to pop up again, usually when you least expect it. That's how our brains work. The thought train gets rolling & we never know what route it's going to take. If your goal is to forget something, you are only setting yourself up for failure.
Imagine how miserable life would be if you forgot that a red stove is hot. You would spend the rest of your life burning your hand on a hot stove. That doesn't happen because we remember the pain and we take steps to avoid it. Unfortunately, humans tend to learn lessons more easily from physical pain than from emotional pain.
If you look back on your life & the the same things keep happening over & over, there's a good chance everybody else is not to blame.
Stop trying to forget your pain. Do something productive with that memory.
Remember it.
Learn something from it.
Rethink it.
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