You overthink. You are afraid to commit. You struggle to make decisions. What is going on? Why are you so afraid to make up your mind? What is overthinking?
In its purest form, overthinking is a lack of confidence.
First, you overthink because you are worried that you will make the wrong decision. Overthinking always leads to worst case scenario. When is the last time you overthought a situation and your head filled with trophies and ticker tape parades? Never. You overthink because you can't face the prospect of being wrong.
Next, it's not just the decision. It's also the aftermath. You are convinced that your decision will end poorly, and you lack the confidence in your ability to navigate the fallout. If things go as poorly as you think they will, you will be crushed. You will never recover.
Overthinking = lack of confidence.
Confidence is not bragging that you are the best. Confidence is saying this is what I want and this is what I'm doing, and I can handle whatever happens. Confidence allows you to make mistakes because you know you will be OK.
Have the courage of your convictions.
Remind yourself that you've survived every other perceived misstep and setback you've ever faced.
Have the confidence to make mistakes.
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