For decades, we had the primitive and limited fight or flight.
Somewhere along the way, we added freeze. Not the most practical, but it did increase the menu by 33%.
Fighting, fleeing and freezing might serve us well in the short term. If we want to actually solve our problems, we need a fourth option.
Fight. Flight. Freeze. Face it.
We have to face our problems.
Think of the current messaging.
You can physically dominate the situation.
You can run away.
You can stand still, frozen and trapped.
Quite frankly, these all lead to more problems.
No matter what is bothering you, at some point you have to face it and fix it. Otherwise, it will continue to be a problem that you are fighting, running from or too scared to deal with.
I reject the notion that our behavioral responses are a product of lizard brains developed through millions of years of evolution. Fighting, flying, freezing and facing it are, quite simply, the most logical behavioral responses to any situation, regardless of your era, epoch or period.
Sometimes you will choose to fight.
Sometimes you will choose to fly.
Sometimes you will choose to freeze.
Eventually, you have to choose to face it.
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