I saw a friend recently. I knew she was training for an ironman triathelon, so I asked how she did.
she had to stop halfway through the marathon because of a knee injury.
the marathon, 26.2 miles, is the third stage.
first she swam 2.4 miles.
then she biked 112 miles.
then she ran 13 miles before calling it a day.
I told her what she did was really impressive.
she said she didn't finish, so she failed.
it breaks my heart that she accomplished so much and convinced herself that she had done practically nothing.
training for an ironman in and of itself is a feat worth celebrating.
completing even one stage takes amazing effort.
my friend deserves to feel better about what she did. and about herself.
the only way to build self esteem is to recognize and embrace what you do.
it's the only way.
my friend did so much but only saw the 13 miles she couldn't complete.
I'm afraid that even if she did finish, her time wouldn't be good enough.
she should have biked harder.
trained more.
feeling good about yourself has nothing to do with winning.
or being perfect.
or being better than others.
it's as simple as recognizing and embracing what you do.
recognize and embrace what you do.
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